“This is a journey; it is the movement of the heart & mind toward compassion, love, and understanding relieving us of fear, anger and hate.
“This is a journey; it is the movement of the heart & mind toward compassion, love, and understanding relieving us of fear, anger and hate. It is the ultimate human decision, which brings us closest to the “Spirit” of Love and Peace, thus Reconciliation. Thus, it fosters healing of the mind, the human spirit, and even the body.”...unknown • Essential Forgiveness: Collectively Heal our past and present Forgiving is an art. I am Robbie Batzke, a Torres Strait Islander man, founder & CEO of Soul4give and I am an Essential Empowerment Educator. This is part of my personal life story that I share here today these are some choices combined with principles I believe that we ALL have the ability to follow and take on board to effect change in our lives. This is my story it is one of betrayal by those who were supposed to care for me, of how I am dealing with the hurts of my past, the later issues that arise each and every day and how I am learning to LOVE, FORGIVE and LIVE again! I hope you understand that as long as I allow these thoughts and feelings to exist and do not forgive, it WILL occupy space in my heart, mind and life....rent free! I have been through separation from my family and my community and I have been through the trauma of child abuse in my new adoptive home. I now know that “Forgiving is not giving up my right to hurt you or myself because you hurt me, if anything Forgiveness has humbled me and created an environment to learn from my past.” Unknown Yes there are times when I lose ground and in a circumstance of spiritual decay I seek support with resentments clawing at my approach. The fault-lines of past antagonisms irritate and snap against change, the demand for payback left open, smoldering on this table of reconciliation. My passing humanity, my soul in desperation through my spirit often cries out avenge me my God? I used to think my life was never right, I was always angry at my circumstance, I was left bitter for the lot I had been given. If you really must know.....my potential and opportunity collided and smashed on cane fields of dreams now purged by fires of redemption...why? “No snowflake in an avalanche ever feels responsible.” Voltaire Oh how traditions and lore have a way of letting a generation down because of injustice. My rationality questions this letting go of blame for my own lack and shortcomings. You see I lived a life beyond my limits beyond excess, it was on a race track on which my thoughts traveled, propelled by ego and lust that fuelled the engine of a destructive will, maintained and cajoled by my pain, this way could only serve one purpose. The race is now ended but not won YET! My will to go on was traumatized I was devastated, I truly believed I was forgotten, that I was without help, I realized how pathetic I truly had become at the same moment I felt pain, the feeling of being cocooned in this body, and my humanity struggling to break free, at the same time my imperfection left exposed. You see it is said that “Wrongs are often forgiven, but contempt never is. Our pride remembers it forever.” Lord Chesterfield I lay on my bed, desperately trying to rationalize within the confusion, emotional turbulence reigned, dark clouds of depression burst, my heart broken, shattered, splintered I was so fearful and disillusioned! NOW....I was alone! The reality of my past overcoming my present burns with self realization, that wholesale CHANGE was needed on a grand scale, this singular thought cleared the decks, the reset button activated. Allowing myself to begin to fully experience the present, the now, that was all I can do for the NOW. My life is now, now I can learn how insights are formed and why they rule the way I behave. Let us look now at the window frame, my paradigm, I was left feeling that I have no other alternative but to look through this window with which I saw the world, BUT I have chosen to move beyond the world I saw, and now I so desperately dream a radical paradigm shift for us all. Now, with speed control must be taken back and with emboldened realization that it is my time. NOW.......to do it! Now......is my gift to me and the moment I embraced this change I clinched an appreciation for my tomorrows. Oh joy, the path to strength & wellbeing I have now opened the door and my 1st step of 1000 healings has begun. "Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it forgoes revenge, and dares to forgive an injury" - E.H. Chapin • Essential Manifestation: of Our Future Forgiving is an art. My rationality questions this letting go of blame for my own shortcomings and forgive myself 1st but we can come to a place but we must be willing to be led. To be educated. Studies reveal: • People who are more forgiving report fewer health and mental problems. • Forgiveness leads to fewer physical symptoms of stress. • Failure to forgive may be more important than hostility as a risk factor for heart disease. • People who blame other people for their troubles have higher incidence of illness such as cardiovascular disease and cancer. • People who imagine not forgiving someone show negative changes in blood pressure, muscle tension and immune response • People who imagine forgiving their offenders note immediate improvement in their cardiovascular, muscular and nervous systems. • People express a sense of improved spiritual well-being • Even people with devastating losses can learn to forgive and feel better psychologically and emotionally. Adapted from Dr. Fredric Luskin's highly acclaimed book: Forgive For Good , Harper San Francisco, 2002 Additional reasons for the good results are due to: A) Dealing with the defense mechanisms of the mind which prevent forgiveness and advance Empowerment B) The major importance that I put on Essential Manifestation with forgiveness. My rationality questioned this letting go of blame for my own shortcomings and forgive myself 1st. This was directly connected to what is called a Higher Universal Spiritual Intelligence; some call it the Universe, Karma in our LORE the Great Spirit etc....... I call it my faith! It does not matter how we look at our condition, we the Community of Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people are rich in Culture LORE, and a deeply spiritual people. Whether we are aware of it or not, we are naturally spiritually creative and sensitive to the Higher Spiritual Intelligence. Our spiritual self is a part of our mind that has the ability to connect to our LORE and Spirit the Higher Universal Intelligence; some call it The Higher Power or GOD! Personally I connect with my spiritual self through Prayer & reading (in one sense this is my LORE), this is why my focus is my Community because Forgiveness is a primary human principal, regardless, it is not an easy thing to do for me, it involves more than a mental process but at a deeper sub-conscious level, in my spirit. This is how the process of my “secret” story was born, so it is a process that is learned and maintained because Change is required to manifest!! The “process” will help us tap into our spirit again, Our Collective Culture (lore) and OUR Higher Universal Spiritual Intelligence • Essential Empowerment Forgiving is an art. What I am proposing here is Healing within and that Forgiveness is about making it possible for us to truly concentrate on getting the important things done in our life. Remember Forgiving is an Art! Forgiving is a Technology that can be learnt and IF we deem it worthy enough we can share the ability to restructure our thought processes. This IS cognitive restructuring! We are not what you see or look like, I believe we are our thoughts. So in effect IF we capture our thoughts and the processes we subject them to (That IS Change), and restructure them anything is possible! It is amazing how many of us know what cognitive re-structuring is, or about we don’t restructure our thought processes, we do not know(until now) that this well kept scientific secret has the ability to change our lives more than any diet book, or success book we have ever read! Without getting too complicated, cognitive re-structuring/Forgiving is learning to identify your own cycle of negative thoughts, habits and routines and replacing them with positive thoughts, habits and routines that will provide you with lifelong benefits. In Forgiving one must be honest to be effectively honest (brutal if you have to!) in self-examination and of others. Cognitive restructuring/Forgiving is about creating a new relationship; It is finding ways, creative ways to forgive and to say “I’m sorry”. Cognitive restructuring/Forgiving requires consistency, in all forms, starting with the self, deciding to forgive each day, even before an event occurs. STATISTICS Research Results from Forgiveness Training In careful scientific studies, forgiveness training has been shown to: • reduce depression, • increase hopefulness, • decrease anger & anxiety, • heal relationships • increase emotional self-confidence, • improve compassion, • increase personal growth, and • improve quality of life